Relative Handsome Hypotheses

Dear Men all over the world,

Cheer up! this writing is a proof that you all handsome! and have equal opportunity to compete in the market of love. How this is working? let's the story begin.

For a woman, handsome man can be categorized by:
1. has good looking or not
2. has deep pocket or not
3. has good personality (attitude) or not
4. smart or not

These four pillars proofed as determinant factors affecting women all over the world decide whether one guy is handsome or not. Many people think that handsome is absolute in some guy. That's totally true, if a guy inherited all those pillars then he should be categorized absolute handsome. However, non absolute handsome guy also can improved their competitiveness in the market if they follow the relative handsome hypotheses. Since, all the pillars are changeable across time as long as a guy determined to change it. Writing below is a way how you increasing your competitiveness among your coherence group in the love market using relative handsome hypotheses as you base.

Pillar #1 definitely the most difficult ones to be changed. But, there's still hope to change this. Plastic surgery is everywhere. Furthermore, if plastic surgery is expensive, a guy can change the way he use his clothes. Somehow wearing perfect clothes such as suits is increasing handsomeness level of a guy. This skill can be acquired if a guy has good sense of fashion or he has really good friend that know fashion very well

Pillar #2 Simply find a good job and work hard. Don't use your parents money, since the effect only on the short term. The older you are, the less of the effect of parent money. At one point, when women think you are too old using parent money the effect will be negative. So, earn the money by yourself!

Pillar #3 To improve this pillar, what you can do simply become good guy and try to avoid become a jerk. Bad boy always interesting for women, however if you want great and elegant women don't be a bad boy. Be a gentleman! Rules to be a gentleman can be found here http://www.king-mag.com/online/?p=7981 and here http://therulesofagentleman.tumblr.com/

Pillar #4 Smart doesn't mean good in everything. Like you don't have to become expert in algebraic topology or real analysis to categorized as smart guy. Smart means you know something that women doesn't know and you are good at it. For example, computer skill, movie knowledge, stata skill and many mores. Just try to find one your ability and emphasize it! Make women know that you are good in something (at least one....).

If you have time and resources increasing those 4 pillars at the same time is advisable. However, since people do face trade off and opportunity cost, sometimes you have to choose which pillars that you want to be increased first. Choose wisely based on your set attributes of skill level. Hopefully when you can increase one of the pillars, your handsomeness level will be increase relatively to other guy member in your coherence group.

"May the force be with you young padawan"

Priority Growth Path

1.        

1. Acquaintance
2. Friend  
3. Bad Friend
4. Bad Ex-Girl Friend / Ex-Boy Friend
5. Best Friend
6. Current Girl Friend / Boy Friend
7. Bad Relatives
8. Family

Priority split line is a line that dividing between your priority scale. Above priority line means that the person is so important to you and he/she almost equal to your own priority. Below priority line means the person is not that important in your priority scale. 

Time means how long you know this person. At time t* reflects the amount of time that prove whether this person worth in your priority scale or not. After time t* passed, if the person still below your priority split line, it is means that the person not so much worth for your life. Person can move from one point to another depend on your preferences. Such as, an acquaintance can become a best friend after he/she passed time t* and proven he/she worth a lot in your life. In the other side, a best friend (point #5) could be shift back to bad friend (point #3) if they do cruel things to you like back stabbing. In most cases, it is also found that many best friend (point #5) shifts back to acquaintance (point #1) after time passed by without trying to maintaining the relationship.

Six years ago

Six years ago, same date and month. One week from the day that people called valentine day, I was sitting on the table under the main stairs on our department building with my friends.
We was talking about how lame our love life, though two of them already got married now (Nia and Nida). Suddenly you coming down with your friends, and I have crush on you at the first time I saw you.

I wait for two weeks before I asked your phone number from my other friend (Datin). However, I wait 1,5 months to have courage to call and text you for the first time. During that time, I can only watch you from far away, simply doesn't have courage even to say hi. :)